Self Compassion

Self-Compassion and Mental Health: A Guide for Parents and Carers by

As a parent or carer, ensuring the well-being of your child is a top priority. Mental health plays a crucial role in a child’s overall health and can significantly impact their quality of life. At, we understand the importance of promoting positive mental health and well-being in children. That’s why we’re here to provide you with helpful tips and guidance on how to help your child develop self-compassion.

Self-compassion is the practice of treating oneself with kindness and understanding, just as you would treat a close friend. It involves being gentle and non-judgmental with oneself, even in the face of failure or setbacks. Research has shown that self-compassion can improve mental health and reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress.

One of the many benefits of self-compassion is that it helps children develop a positive and resilient mindset. When children learn to be kind to themselves, they are less likely to feel overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions and can better cope with challenging situations. Additionally, self-compassion can lead to better relationships with others as children are less likely to be harsh and critical towards others and are more likely to understand and support those around them.

Here are some practical tips for helping your child develop self-compassion:

  1. Lead by Example: Children learn by observing the people around them, so it’s important to demonstrate self-compassion in your own life. When you make a mistake, talk about how you’re being kind and understanding with yourself and how you can learn from the experience.
  2. Encourage Self-Reflection: Encourage your child to reflect on their thoughts and emotions and to identify when they are being harsh or critical towards themselves.
  3. Practice Self-Compassionate Self-Talk: Help your child develop a self-compassionate inner voice by reminding them to be kind and understanding with themselves. Encourage them to write positive affirmations and to keep them in a place where they can see them every day.
  4. Engage in Self-Compassionate Activities: Encourage your child to engage in activities that promote self-compassion, such as meditation, journaling, or physical exercise.
  5. Teach Empathy: Self-compassion involves being able to understand and relate to others, so it’s essential to teach your child the importance of empathy. Encourage them to think about how others might be feeling and to offer support and understanding.

In conclusion, self-compassion is a crucial aspect of good mental health and can greatly benefit a child’s well-being. By teaching your child to be kind and understanding towards themselves, you can help them develop a positive and resilient mindset and build stronger relationships with others. At, we believe that every child deserves to feel happy and fulfilled, and by promoting self-compassion, you can help your child achieve just that.

We hope this guide has been helpful to you and your child. For more information and resources on promoting positive mental health in children, visit today.

Here are some references on self-compassion that you might find useful:

  1. Neff, K. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2(3), 223-250.
  2. Neff, K. D. (2011). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 10(2), 352-366.
  3. Germer, C. K., & Neff, K. D. (2015). Mindful self-compassion: A new approach to enhancing self-awareness and self-care. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 10(1), 19-26.

4.Leary, M. R., Tate, E. B., Adams, C. E., Allen, A. B., & Hancock, J. (2007). Self-compassion and reactions to unpleasant self-relevant events: The implications of treating oneself kindly. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 92(5), 887-904.